Sister In Law
15 May 2003 12:00![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
denOn Saturday Mum went to soccer to watch the kids of my brother's SO play, and she met my Sisterinlaw (married to another brother), who was there with my nephew.
Today Mum got this letter in the mail
"Dear R.
I thank you for your politeness and niceness on Saturday. I wish you well on your journey and hope things go well for you and the family. I am happy for you that you are enjoying E. and her children and you are happy. Enjoy what you have. Please leave me alone. My relationship with you has only ever been stressful. I love my life now. A."
The stress A. mentions is, to my mind, all imagined and one-way and comes from a small list of minor incidents that date back 10 years. There is so much more I could say but won't. I used to visit them at least once a month, but haven't done so for nearly 3 years. I see my brother and the kids occasionally, but I've spoken to her twice in that time.
Today Mum got this letter in the mail
"Dear R.
I thank you for your politeness and niceness on Saturday. I wish you well on your journey and hope things go well for you and the family. I am happy for you that you are enjoying E. and her children and you are happy. Enjoy what you have. Please leave me alone. My relationship with you has only ever been stressful. I love my life now. A."
The stress A. mentions is, to my mind, all imagined and one-way and comes from a small list of minor incidents that date back 10 years. There is so much more I could say but won't. I used to visit them at least once a month, but haven't done so for nearly 3 years. I see my brother and the kids occasionally, but I've spoken to her twice in that time.
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Date: 15 May 2003 09:09 (UTC)How utterly rude and uncalled for! Your mother shouldn't have to stay away from her other children and grandchildren simply because the sister-in-law might be in the same place at the same time. How utterly arrogant of her to assumed that your mother chose to show up just to antagonize her.
I'm floored....I've honestly never witnessed such rudeness.
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Date: 15 May 2003 17:09 (UTC)The SIL wasn't at the soccer field when mum arrived. She turned up later with my neice who'd been at ballet. Mum was alone with my brother, talking to him as you do when you see a familiy member when you're out, and watching my nephew play. Any idea that Mum went out of her way to deliberately talk to the SIL is purely imagined.